THE CONCEPT AND PRINCIPLE OF FRIENDSHIP AND FAMILY IN RELATIONSHIP GOAL

FRIENDSHIP AND RELATIONSHIP GOAL

MEANING AND MISCONCEPTION

Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people. It is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than an association, and has been studied in academic fields such as communication, sociology, social psychology, anthropology, and philosophy.

According to that definition which all other explanation is derived from. 

Friendship only have Mutual Affection attached to it.  It is interpersonal bond. 

But note this In the Psychology Realm of Relationship. 

Relationship today I will liken it to a Ship. 

A Relation + Ship. 

In a ship you have lot of cabin. 

Those are the relatives and relations you engaged in. 

You can choose to replace the Relation in your ship and define it. 

In respect to relationship we have

1. Companionship

2. Copartnership 

3. Friendship

4. Heirship

5. Kingship

6. Ladyship

7. Sonship

8. Relationship

And so many more. 

When we meet someone and there comes a feeling generated, it is not something you can force yourself to build or develop, it comes naturally, but we get it wrong at the point of defining the purpose and role we put them in Our Ship. 

Someone good as a companion and you place such In the group of friends then you two will misfire and misfunction.

For everyone you meet there is a purpose. 

Out of over 200million people in your country, you Now met someone and you said its normal. Why don't you decide to meet even 1million and reach out to them. 

There is a purpose. 

God put us in a family not friend. Then he gave us extended family, then we grow with Friends. 

Friends are meant to be for mutual affection and when the affection is gone then the ship grows tired and out of fuel. 

Left To me. 

I'll state friend as a contract between people to have mutual affection and benefits for period of time unless there is a conversion during Renewal and that takes a lot of sacrifice and Determination. 

That's why Friend is FRI END 

It  must end. It is now out of the affection if we need to prolong it that makes people renew it and make it a relationship. 

I know its kinda trickish.

But have you imagined your worst enemy is one who another person can die for.

And someone you love so much is been hated by another. 

You can't be good for everybody.

 It is where you have your purpose that you serve

Serving out of purpose will lead to frustration and time wasting. 

Some are suppose to be under your watch don't misdefine the Affection. 

Some love you as a brother they look up to, don't change it. 

When FRI END ends what about FAMILY.

I'll take family like end the last 3 letters

FAM ILY ILY 

I- I

L- LOVE

Y -YOU

I.e in a family,

1. You don't see yourself alone.

You're not selfish. You are considerate of others in the ship. 

2. There is love in between. 

There is love not Lust and the love is shared in between not one having more or one not loving at all. 

There must be conscious effort to share love

3. There is an eternal bond.

Even when you guys are not together or fighting, the bond is still reflecting. .

There's no was you will love and have misunderstanding and you won't feel the absence of the purpose. Only that you struggle within you to Allow Ego over the bond. 

Finally. About Dating

dating (present participle) of date

1. 

establish or ascertain the date of (an object or event).

2.

reveal (someone) as being old-fashioned.

3.

go out with (someone in whom one is romantically or sexually interested).

The third definition is now the Formed Relationship Generated out of Lust. 

Because it is Romantically or sexually Interested.

To date someone, something sexually must interest you about him or her.

 

1.Maybe her beauty of his handsomeness, 

The guy is cute, that lady is beautiful

2. Maybe his/her possession. Money, car, houses

3. Taste. 

4. Pleasure

and many more we know ourselves.

All these are driven out of lust.

Rarely will you see someone fall for someone because of the smartness. They befriend such.

Or maybe he's hardworking but not rich or handsome. 

Or maybe he's decent but he's poor. 

The lust can't arise in such a case.

we can begin to get I right. Define the purpose of that person you know. 

If it's lust. Its temporal. When the urge is gone. The ship is wrecked. 

Build a healthy relationship for a safe landing.

Thanks

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